Hey everyone!!

We all read those positivity quotes on Pinterest right? Some of us (me) May even follow the “Positivity” hashtag on Instagram. But how much do we really abide by the things we read. How much attention do you really give towards being positive and having a positive attitude even when it’s easy to be a negative Nancy? Well I’ve had to really dig deep lately and re-examine myself, my standards for myself and the energy I want to expel on others.

So I want to share this story with y’all in hopes that it will help someone who could possibly be going through the same situation.

Let me give a little background first… I work in health care. Some days are really really rough. But some days are great! Either way, having a great group of people around you during your work days can make a huge difference.

This is something I never paid too close attention to until recently.

We had a new staff member join our team. At first they seemed nice, fun and competent. They seemed to exude confidence and people were drawn to this person. As time went on, i began to hear very negative things from them about other staff members, patients and family members. But I thought this person was good deep down and had already made friends with them.. as did other staff members.

A few people had mentioned how they weren’t fond of this person for this reason or that but I, along with a few others were trying to remain positive and have a good perception of this person. After a while I began to notice the negativity brewing inside myself and my thoughts. The negativity this person put off was like a magnet!!

I started to distance myself. Prayed each morning before entering work for the Lord to help block these negative vibes and to hold strong in myself. I spoke with another staff member (whom i trust very much) turns out they were feeling the exact same way!! Just when I thought it was only me, it wasn’t. Many people were feeling this same way and had began to distance themselves as well!! By this point, Negative Nancy had manipulated someone very dear to all of us and we were just kind of baffled by it. But still we had chosen to stand strong in ourselves and let this person figure things out for themselves.

After a while of distance, my friend who wants to see good in everyone came to me. Apologetic and thankful. Apologetic for allowing herself to be manipulated and portray someone who she wasn’t. And thankful for keeping her at a distance but not counting her out completely.

This was a lesson to all of us. That although you may want to see good in people, everyone doesn’t have it. But if you hold strong in who you are, good things will come. We are all much stronger in our own beliefs, mindsets and attitudes. We appreciate each other more for not turning against one another when that was a very easy option. We learned how we do NOT want to think, act and be.

We, instead of falling into a negative sinkhole, used Negative Nancy to build our positivity higher and make us stronger in a better way.

I do want to say, we have never confronted Nancy as this would more than likely be pointless. We have never been mean, rude, or exclusive to this person. We just simply decided to keep our distance and exude positivity regardless of what their attitude is. ❤️

P.S.- Negative Nancy has moved on to another person who fits her criteria as a Mean Mandy as well. Hopefully Mean Mandy has a stronghold to their beliefs as well (if they have the same beliefs as the rest of us) and will be able to turn from the negativity. I do pray Nancy will find themselves and the root of the problem within their heart that causes this destructive behavior.

Thank you for reading! Feel free to share any experiences/advice, etc that may help someone else going through the same thing!